So this entry has little, if anything, to do with beans. Green or otherwise. Unless you are referring to the proverbial beans as in 'no beans about it'. In which case this might have everything to do with beans. Or a lack of them. Whichever.
Anyways, on to more linear things. Today's subject is trust. A funny concept. Most people assume that the word is synonymous with honesty. Which is the farthest thing from the truth. As it was so eloquently put by Captain Jack Sparrow; "Me? I'm dishonest, and a dishonest man you can always trust to be dishonest. Honestly." And that is the basis of trust. When you trust a person, you trust that they will do exactly what they have displayed that they are capable of doing, or have consistently done. How's that for a mind bender? So when you no longer trust a person, what you really mean is; that person has displayed something beyond your conceived notion of their normal behaviour. They have been spontaneous or unpredictable. Which also means that that loss of trust is not necessarily a bad thing. Most people associate a lack of trust with a negative action. However that is not always the case. And now after explaining that, I will explain why this is my current topic of thought.
It was not until a few years ago that I actually able to wrap my head around the subject. When I place my trust in someone, it is because I am willing to believe they will act in accordance with what I have observed of their character. And if trust is a belief, it also means that with new information it is subject to change. So we never truly stop trusting a person, we just change what it is about them that we trust. I have discovered in the past few months, that I trust everyone. I trust everyone to act exactly the way they have shown that they do. Sort of a personal breakthrough if you will. So when a person breaks the trust I have placed in them, rather than focusing on the betrayal of that trust, I must change what it is about them that I trust.
This change in perspective helps me sleep better. I am able to let go of the bitterness and negativity that goes along with betrayals. And being able to sleep is paramount to one's happiness. That or a lot of coffee.
Mmmmmm..... coffee.
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Hi there, I hope you don't mind. I have started following your blog and this tag thingy is going around. I am not usually one for these things but I thought it would be fun to get to know a few people from here.
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A similair idea is that of confidence. Joe Montagna said in one of his movies that a confidence man isn't trying to gain your confidence. He is giving you his. He has confidence that you will act in a specified manner and he can take advantage of that.
Trust is usually associated with an action. "I trust him with my life." means I trust him to keep me alive. "I don't trust him around my wife." means I trust him to misbehave.
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